Archive for January, 2009

Update of 2009 Resolutions

Posted in Uncategorized with tags on 01/29/2009 by groverb

1. Blog at least three X a week.

So far so good…I’m actually kind of surprised that I have things to say on a weekly basis (could be that I am reading like mad!!)

2. Read and finish at least 2 books a month. 

Okay…seriously…I am devouring books at this point.  Here is what I’ve read thus far in 2009;

Goodbye Generation

Goodbye Generation – 2.5out of 5 stars…not great…not bad!  I enjoyed the Canadian perspective.

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5 Dysfunctions of Team – 4.5 out of 5  Great book…I love the format.  Great story that brings the functions out into the light.

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Presentation Zen – 4 out of 5  Great read…awesome presentation ideas!  Powerpoint is not dead!

Youth Ministry 3.0

Youth Ministry 3.0 – 5 out of 5…great history of the evolution of youth ministry!  Profound, groundbreaking all in one!  Probably the most important youth ministry book to be written since Doug Fields “Purpose Driven Youth Ministry”.  Careful youth workers/pastors …this book will mess with your head (in a good way of course)

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Pagan Christianity – 4.5 out of 5  This book is a must read for anyone who lives by the old church saying, “but it’s always been done that way.”  It is definitely controversial and too some very offensive…but I loved it!!

3. Build a non-churched friendship with at least 4 people.

Have 3 friends that I am loving on right now…

5. Leave stress at work…work in progress

6. Get Fit…Don’t want to talk about it!!…I have to stop making excuses…and get back on the Turbo Jam wagon!

7. Pursue Simplicity…work in progress

8. Sensitivity to divine appointments…I’ve had some amazing appointments as of recent (I’ll share them at a later date)

9. Go back to school. …no $ / no time!

10. Stay with it….the good, the bad and the ugly…that pretty much wraps up the first month.

What’s Up with Pop-Culture?

Posted in Uncategorized with tags on 01/26/2009 by groverb

 What’s Up with Pop-Culture?

 

There was a time not so long ago where our society actually believed that young people needed to be protected from certain aspects of pop culture.  How things have changed!  Due to the easy access of everything from the internet, online gaming, social networks and YouTube – everything is now mainstream.

 

There can be no doubt that today’s pop culture has made a turn for the worse – everywhere you look  you see the lewd and the crude and it’s growing more profane by the minute.  Constant exposures to these messages not only are having a numbing effect on our children but for us as parents as well.  So where do we go from here?  There are many who would say the first step is to talk to your child.  I personally believe the first step we should take as parents is to educate ourselves as to what is going on in their world.

 

We all know things have changed since we were our children’s age…but are you aware of how much things have changed?  I recently came across an article that I felt was rather appropriate for this topic…here it is:

 

The viral world of teen entertainment

 

By Ken Mueller

 

The sites

The most popular kid on the block these days also happens to be one of the newest kids: YouTube.com. The site was officially launched in December 2005 by a pair of unemployed, debt-ridden, 20-something Silicon Valley geeks as a way of making it very easy for people to upload video content to the Internet. As an indicator of how popular online video has become, this site alone features 35,000 new videos each day, with viewers watching more than 40 million videos—every day! According to research from the Online Publishers Association, 5 percent of Internet users view online video on a daily basis, 24 percent view weekly, and 46 percent watch at least once a month. Much of YouTube’s early popularity was driven from MySpace as teens and other social networkers wanted a place to upload videos to put on their own sites.

 

But YouTube is only one of dozens of such sites that host and highlight these videos. Other popular sites for outrageous videos include eBaum’s World (ebaumsworld.com), StupidVideos.com and Heavy.com, as well as some of the larger search aggregators such as Google Video, Yahoo Video and MSN Video. (See the chart on page 8 for a list of some of the other more popular video sites.)

 

The popularity of online videos has the big boys of traditional media taking note. While there is a considerable move to make original content available online, the major broadcast and cable networks also are moving to take online content and put it on TV. VH1 now airs a program of online videos called “Web Junk 2.0,” while Bravo airs “Outrageous and Contagious: Viral Videos.” Other new on-air entries include NBC’s “The Net with Carson Daly,” E!’s “Cybersmack” and the USA Network’s version of “eBaum’s World.”

 

The growing popularity of online video also has caught the eyes of marketers who see money to be made. YouTube and its clones are all working on ways to generate income through advertising, while other sites are offering original and premium content to viewers for a small fee or subscription.

 

What’s the draw?

First, and most importantly, online videos are … (insert adjective here). Funny. Entertaining. Creative. Sarcastic, Mean spirited. Extreme. All of the above. At a time when TV and other traditional media are finding it hard to engage a young audience, the Internet allows teens to find programming that connects with them and their sensibilities. Remember: in most cases these videos are good, clean fun.

 

Second, because of their viral nature, finding the best online videos is like digging for buried treasure. Kids vie to find the latest and greatest so they can be the first to share them with their friends. There is a measure of honor given to those who find the best videos online, so some kids will spend hours scouring these sites looking for amazing clips, much like an online treasure hunt.

 

Third, the hidden online nature of these videos also gives kids a sense of ownership and control. Like a lot of other Web entities, such as social networking sites, there is a sense that this is an adult-free zone. Kids are attracted to those things of which mom and dad aren’t aware. There is something special about something that belongs to you without the knowledge of parents. This doesn’t mean all online videos are bad or forbidden. But there is a sense of individualism and independence. Atom Film vice president Scott Roesch says digital entertainment gives “consumers total control of their viewing experience. Their schedule is no longer two hours or 30-minute shows, rather you can access wherever and however long you want it” (“Internet Vid Content Jumps on Mobile Wave,” UPI, 2/14/06).

 

Fourth, for those kids who are uploading content, there is the lure of celebrity. MTV Networks executive Brian Graden correctly notes that “fame has become an overblown aphrodisiac in our culture, and now here you go: put your video you made on iFilm and maybe you’ll be on TV next week” (New York Times, 3/26/06). Certainly the large number of videos uploaded each day precludes most of them from finding anything more than a few viewers. But the fame accorded BowieChick, Numa Numa, David Lehre and others is something many kids would love to achieve. While the chances are admittedly small, there is a greater chance of getting noticed on the Web than there is of following the traditional route of film school or acting school and moving to Hollywood.

 

How do we respond?

First, we need to recognize that online video is here to stay and is paving the way for new forms of entertainment and content delivery. It is a part of our culture, particularly the culture of our Web-connected teens. As a result, we need to approach it the way we approach other media and entertainment: from a posture of mindful critique through the lens of a biblical world and life view. As Christians we need to avoid the extreme of mindless consumption on one end, and the extreme of hiding from the culture at the other end. With that in mind, we should sit down with our kids and view these online videos with them, helping them to process the messages. One helpful tool is our How to Use your Head to Guard your Heart: 3-D Guide.

 

Second, helping our kids become more discerning about the media they consume will help to protect them as they search the Web for online videos. Many of the sites that offer the best videos are also home to videos we would be wise to have our kids avoid. While most video offerings are harmless, there are plenty of videos that range from the slightly provocative to downright pornographic. It is not uncommon to find videos of teen girls dancing provocatively in their underwear or performing a strip tease. At the same time, pornography sites often upload “teaser” videos to these sites as a way of generating traffic to their site. Our young teen boys are especially vulnerable to the addictive lure of pornography, and there are plenty of online videos that will whet their appetite for sin. Other videos feature extremely graphic violence and the glorification of drugs and alcohol.

 

Third, while they may be funny, many online videos find their humor and appeal through a mean-spirited approach to life that includes laughing at the expense of others. The subjects of some videos are often the unwitting victims of pranks or hidden cameras. In 2002 a 14-year-old boy filmed himself pretending to be a character from Star Wars, wielding a makeshift light saber. The video, now known as “Star Wars Kid,” was stolen by several of his friends who made it available on the Internet where it quickly became a viral hit. Unfortunately the star of the video was subjected to global taunting, dropped out of school and sued his friends. We need to make sure our kids have a Christ-like attitude toward others and don’t find entertainment value in the misfortune or misery of others.

 

Fourth, with the prospect of instant fame just a click away, we need to help our kids make wise decisions regarding anything they might choose to put on the Web. None of us wants our daughters performing erotically on the Internet. We also don’t want our kids to imitate or participate in dangerous and extreme activities. MTV’s “Jackass” spawned a host of at-home imitators, some of whom were injured trying to outdo their on-camera heroes. As online videos of dangerous behavior gain popularity, teens will feel a need to push the envelope even further in order to be noticed. We should do everything in our power to educate our kids and discourage them from participating in immoral or reckless behavior they view as fun.

 

Fifth, we should be encouraging our teens to use their God-given creativity. As beings created in the image of God we are creators ourselves. Those students who exhibit abilities in filmmaking and production should be given the chance to use those gifts. Glorifying God with our talents is not merely a function of producing “Christian” video content. It is more a matter of both the content and quality being marked by technical excellence and truth. (See Francis Shaeffer’s “Four Standards of Judgement” in his book Art & the Bible.) The Internet helps to level the creative playing field and our kids should take advantage of the chance to have their work seen and possibly be “discovered.”

 

Sixth, we need to make sure our kids are on firm legal ground. Much of the video that is uploaded to the Web comes from other sources, and therefore is in violation of copyright laws. When peer-to-peer file swapping networks such as Napster came on the scene, the music industry actively worked to shut down all channels of illegal downloading. It is expected that the same will happen with video clips that are being uploaded and downloaded illegally. Our teens have grown up online in an environment that sees nothing wrong with taking things found on the Internet. We need to teach them a strong and biblical sense of right and wrong, and a healthy respect for the law.

 

Seventh, explore the possibilities of using online video as a touch point for ministry. The world of online videos is a window into youth culture. By recognizing what is popular with teens we can take their cultural and spiritual pulse and better minister to them. For teens, talking about their favorite online videos is akin to office water cooler talk. I know of several youth workers who open their weekly youth meetings with interesting online videos, either as icebreakers, attention grabbers or discussion starters. Popular online videos can make great object lessons. And some youth groups even produce their own creative videos that are worthy of delivering to an online audience.

 

 

Online video sites:

 

YouTube.com

StupidVideos.com

MetaCafe.com

iFilm.com

AtomFilms.com

Heavy.com

MilkAndCookies.com

Break.com

Video.google.com

Video.yahoo.com

Video.msn.com

Dabble.com

vMix.com

Grouper.com

MyDAVE.tv

Vidlife.com

Ourmedia.org

Veoh.com

Gorillamask.net

Dailymotion.com

Guba.com

Podzinger.com

Fireant.tv

Dailysixer.com

Pocketmovies.com

CollegeHumor.com

 

 

The Center for Parent/Youth Understanding grants permission for this article to be copied in its entirety, provided the copies are distributed free of charge and the copies indicate the source as the Center for Parent/Youth Understanding.

 

After reading this article there can be a real sense of despair and hopelessness.  How can we compete as parents with our culture?  How does our faith even relate to today’s media and culture?  That is exactly why we are bringing in Brett Ullman on Friday, February 6th and Saturday, February 7th.  With my parent hat on I want to strongly encourage you as parents, to make sure you do whatever it takes to be a part of that weekend!

 

May God continue to richly bless you!

 

Pastor G <><<

 

The Three E’s of Junior High Ministry

Posted in Uncategorized with tags on 01/22/2009 by groverb

 If I were to ask a hundred random people what makes a good jr. high leader, I’d probably get a hundred different answers. My personal beliefs are that there character, heart and leadership qualities far outweigh their image, substance and style. I gave this a great deal of thought the other day when as a youth staff we were checking in on the Presidential inauguration. I am a firm believer that the leadership qualities needed to be a President of a powerful country, or to be a good CEO are the same as those needed to be good junior high leader. Our church developed the 5 E strategy a few years back…I have a tough time remembering them…but for some reason I have never forgot these 3 E’s over these many years of youth ministry.

 

. ETHICAL

Ethics, honesty, integrity…it is so key that we have these qualities in junior high ministry!! Students are the best fake finders out there. So what does this look like on a day to day scale? • Not playing favourites with the ‘cool’ or ‘church’ kids.

• If you get paid, making the most of the time you are ‘on the clock’.

• Not exaggerating or embellishing the stories you tell in your lessons.

• Saying an honest ‘no’ to another request instead of saying yes and becoming bitter.

 

EFFECTIVE

A good definition of effectiveness is ‘doing the right things’. In life and ministry, there are lots of good opportunities. Effective leaders recognize that not every good opportunity is a good opportunity for them. Just because someone has an idea for an activity or suggests a new curriculum or finds a great new service project doesn’t mean you need to add it to your junior high calendar!

 

EFFICIENT

A good definition of efficiency is ‘doing things right’. Junior high ministry is notorious for being inefficient. We’re messy. We have a hard time staying within our budget. We procrastinate. Sound familiar? Being efficient takes work, but it is incredibly rewarding if we can learn the art of efficiency.

Until next time..

Pastor G <><

The Trickle Down Effect

Posted in Uncategorized with tags on 01/19/2009 by groverb

Well…yesterday was our offical junior high life group kick-off.  It’s not that we’ve never had life groups (small groups) it’’s just that we truly beleive we need to move them out of the safe confines of our church building.  The plan was to start promptly at 12:30pm…oops… I totally forgot that lately our Senior pastor has been on a roll and he has been speaking up to an hour…  therefore the majority of our parents didn’t show up till almost 1pm.

Logistics have never been one of my strengths…but oh well…it appeared that most of the parents we more than willing to extend me some grace.  I tell you all this really to share this next point…that literally kept me up last night :  I couldn’t stop thinking about the impact that parents have on their kids!  There is that old addage that says something about “nurture over nature” …in some ways I might agree with that statement.  But I must admit I get a little ticked when I hear people say …“todays youth can’t be all God wants them to be until they confess all of the sins of their parents.”

That statement keeps running through my head…as I stood there and watched parents hanging out with their kids…I began to wonder..”how many of these kids really even know there parents?”  The fact is there are many teens who have no clue who there parents really are!  So how does a student confess the sins of their parents when they don’t even think there parents have ever sinned?

I can’t even begin to tell you how many students over the past 20 years have said to me; “I can’t relate to my parents…and they do not relate to me – I have issues and my parents have never had issues.”   What kind of influence are we having on our kids when we appear to be the “Cleaver” family?  I’m not saying we need to download all of our messyness onto our kids – but what I am saying is that we need to be authentic and vulnerable and at least be willing to admit when we have messed up.

We can never lose sight of the fact that we all have inherited a “sin nature” from our parents and if that nature is kept unchecked sin can be repeated from generation to generation. The problem with that mindset is that many have used it as an excuse to remain in disobedience.  I can’t help myself…it’s not my fault…it was my sinful forefathers!! Time for a reality check!!

 Those sinful patterns don’t have to be repeated… we all have a choice how we choose to live our lives.  I came from a fairly messed up home…and my ancestry is littered with trainwreck after trainwreck.  Sure I could pull out the “generational  excuse card”…but it’s merely an excuse.  I have drawn the line in the sand…and through the power of  God working through me I must surrender daily to my sinful desires.

Parents, students..or whoever else may read this blog – don’t ever let anyone tell you you’re shackled with the same unavoidable choices.

We all have a choice. I don’t care where you are from or what people around you have done or are doing.  Remember that although faith is personal…it’s also not private – and therefore we must keep in mind that it doesn’t mysteriously trickle down from generation to generation.  We must choose!! .

Her are some questions you may want to discuss as a family;

Think:

  • Can God use me (my family) in spite of my (our) family background? 
  • How can my life beam God’s love into my family/friends? 
  • Have I made family excuses (generational sin) for my lack of faith and obediance to Gods call in my life? 

Pastor G <><<

Plan of action when it comes to attraction?

Posted in Uncategorized with tags on 01/15/2009 by groverb

I’m convinced that God knew I couldn’t handle a daughter…therefore he blessed me with two boys (even our new puppy is a boy)

Why would I say such a thing?  Primarily because I have been working with students for the past 20 years…and when I see what girls have to deal with (along with their parents)  I know there is no way I could handle that kind of stress.  So to all you parents of girls…I have full and utter respect for you!!

I recently had a group of grade 7 girls approach me re: their “significant others”  My first response was …give me a break!  Grade 7 girls…12-13 year olds talking about hooking up!  I have to tell you I was blown away by the content of their relationships!  I certainly do not recommned dating relationships in junior high…but what is it that drives these girls to being in relationship with boys who are “in it” for all the wrong reasons? 

 I came across this great article recently…it truly expresses my concern and gives parents and girls some great insights into picking the “RIGHT” guy:

“You know how to get the wrong guy.

That’s easy.

Maybe you’ve had that talk with your parents and you know where they stand.

But perhaps you’re sitting here, as a Christian girl or Christian guy, and you want to eventually spend the rest of your life with someone who loves God passionately.

How do you get that guy or that girl to notice you?

Believe it or not, there was a young teen in the Bible who did it right. She attracted a guy who passionately loved God.

What was her secret? Did she wear the right clothes? Did she listen to the right music? Did she hang with the popular crowd at school?

How did she get noticed? Rebekah attracted God’s man for her life by simply being herself. No pretense. No show.

Isaac was part of a special family, the family of Abraham. And Abraham was a man who wanted to make sure his son married a woman who loved God. So he sent his servant on a cross-country quest to find Ms. Right.

At the end of his journey, the servant stopped by a well for rest. He was tired and his camels needed water. Imagine a rest stop on the side of a road.

Guess who just happened to be there at the well? Rebekah. She didn’t know this important man was here. She had no idea she was being evaluated. All she knew was that a tired traveler needed some water. So she selflessly took care of him and his camels.

In other words, she lived out her faith on an ordinary day without expecting anything in return. Her love for God and for others was so attractive, it drew Rebekah to Abramam’s servant, and eventually to the man God wanted her to marry.

The world has a lot of romantic advice for young people and most of it is wrong. Magazines are filled with tips on how to dress, how to act, how to win your way into the heart of the opposite sex. You can follow this advice, but you might not end up with someone who loves God.

Its better to follow the example of Rebekah and live out your faith every day. You just don’t know who might be watching.

Think: 

  • What qualifications do you think are important in a future husband or wife? 
  • Are you developing those positive character traits in your own life? 
  • If Abraham’s servant came to your school, your home, your youth group, would they find you living out your faith?  

SHOULD WE SET THE BAR LOW?

Posted in Uncategorized with tags on 01/12/2009 by groverb

As I was driving home after yesterdays service these thoughts came to mind; 

“Should we really expect teens to  have a passionate walk with God.”

“It’s obvious teens don’t really read the Bible…they never bring them to church.”

“You can’t expect much from teens.”

Would you believe I’ve heard all of these statements already this year…and we are only a few weeks into the year? In fact, many Christian leaders think this way about young people.

There is the pervading attitude that youth are the future and not the present church…and due to this attitude you see many churches dumbing things down so “teens will like it.”

With this underlying attitude is there any wonder why Christian young people are rarely taken seriously?

What’s funny is that the Bible takes a completely different approach. Did you know that most of the key players in God’s grand story of grace and redemption were teens?

Think about it. David was 16 when anointed king. Joseph was in his teens and making his way thru Egypt. Mary was a teenage mother. Joash and Josiah were teen kings. Daniel was a teen when he made a bold stand for God in Babylon. Esther was young when she won the king’s heart, became queen, and saved her people. Jeremiah was a teenage prophet.

Parents of CSC …let me reassure you that God wants to use your  child just like he used these “spiritual giants.”

This is where your role comes in…as parents we need to draw a line in the sand. WE have to ignore the voices that are telling us that other life pursuits are somehow more important.

Think:

  • How can you as a parent of a teen, equip and empower your child(ren) to have a significant impact on their school and your neighborhood for Christ?
  •  Is it hard for you to think in these terms because you personally have been tempted to put off your relationship with Jesus Christ?
  • Being the most significant influencer in your child’s life…are you committed to“drawing a line in the sand” and standing up for Christ?

Pastor G’s Top 10 List of Resolutions for 2009

Posted in Uncategorized on 01/08/2009 by groverb

I’ve never been one to make New Year’s resolutions…but this year I felt the need to come up with a list of things I will attempt to accomplish over this next year…here they are;

1. Blog at least three X a week.

2. Read and finish at least 2 books a month. My goal will be to read between 24-36 books thoughout this year.  I’ll let you know if any of them are worth the read! 

3. Build a non-churched friendship with at least 4 people. I’m already in process with this one…I can’t even begin to explain how charged up I get when I hang out with my unsaved friends.  They have such a diffferentt perspective on life and they are all on difffernt paths of self-discovery…can’t wait!!

4. Tear myself away from technology…Crackberry and Crackbook – enough said!!

5. Leave stress at work…work in progress

6. Get Fit…gotta stop making lame excuses!

7. Pursue Simplicity…trying to figure out what that means as a individual and family.

8. Sensitivity to divine appointments…need to turn off the noise

9. Go back to school. …Masters of Something?

10. Stay with it….easier said than done