I’m convinced that God knew I couldn’t handle a daughter…therefore he blessed me with two boys (even our new puppy is a boy)
Why would I say such a thing? Primarily because I have been working with students for the past 20 years…and when I see what girls have to deal with (along with their parents) I know there is no way I could handle that kind of stress. So to all you parents of girls…I have full and utter respect for you!!
I recently had a group of grade 7 girls approach me re: their “significant others” My first response was …give me a break! Grade 7 girls…12-13 year olds talking about hooking up! I have to tell you I was blown away by the content of their relationships! I certainly do not recommned dating relationships in junior high…but what is it that drives these girls to being in relationship with boys who are “in it” for all the wrong reasons?
I came across this great article recently…it truly expresses my concern and gives parents and girls some great insights into picking the “RIGHT” guy:
“You know how to get the wrong guy.
Maybe you’ve had that talk with your parents and you know where they stand.
But perhaps you’re sitting here, as a Christian girl or Christian guy, and you want to eventually spend the rest of your life with someone who loves God passionately.
How do you get that guy or that girl to notice you?
Believe it or not, there was a young teen in the Bible who did it right. She attracted a guy who passionately loved God.
What was her secret? Did she wear the right clothes? Did she listen to the right music? Did she hang with the popular crowd at school?
How did she get noticed? Rebekah attracted God’s man for her life by simply being herself. No pretense. No show.
Isaac was part of a special family, the family of Abraham. And Abraham was a man who wanted to make sure his son married a woman who loved God. So he sent his servant on a cross-country quest to find Ms. Right.
At the end of his journey, the servant stopped by a well for rest. He was tired and his camels needed water. Imagine a rest stop on the side of a road.
Guess who just happened to be there at the well? Rebekah. She didn’t know this important man was here. She had no idea she was being evaluated. All she knew was that a tired traveler needed some water. So she selflessly took care of him and his camels.
In other words, she lived out her faith on an ordinary day without expecting anything in return. Her love for God and for others was so attractive, it drew Rebekah to Abramam’s servant, and eventually to the man God wanted her to marry.
The world has a lot of romantic advice for young people and most of it is wrong. Magazines are filled with tips on how to dress, how to act, how to win your way into the heart of the opposite sex. You can follow this advice, but you might not end up with someone who loves God.
Its better to follow the example of Rebekah and live out your faith every day. You just don’t know who might be watching.
- What qualifications do you think are important in a future husband or wife?
- Are you developing those positive character traits in your own life?
- If Abraham’s servant came to your school, your home, your youth group, would they find you living out your faith?